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in Episodes on May 19, 2020

Judgment, Criticism & Mom-Shaming In The Time Of COVID-19: Episode 261

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As the country begins to open up–slowly, differently, uncertainly–one family’s decisions about how to re-enter the world will look different from the next. Can we have confidence in our own decisions while holding space for others to interpret guidelines differently? Are criticism and judgment online a symptom of quarantine fatigue, or the beginning of a toxic new norm? And can the experience of new motherhood provide lessons about empathy that apply in these unprecedented times? Meagan and Sarah dive deep into big questions about shame, guilt, criticism, and judgment in Episode 261 of The Mom Hour. Join us!

This episode was recorded on May 21, 2020.

A NOTE ON EPISODES RELEASED DURING COVID-19: Things change so quickly these days–including recommendations for health and safety, as well as our own thoughts and feelings–so you may hear things that feel a bit dated if you’re catching up on older episodes. Just know that we’re experiencing this in real time just like you, and that we’re working hard to follow the latest recommendations for the safety of our families and our communities. We’re also working hard to bring you timely, relevant podcast episodes in a world that’s changing very quickly.

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  1. kelley murphy says

    May 20, 2020 at 1:26 pm

    Oh my gosh, thank you!! for this episode. I’m so very frustrated with all covid guidelines being government oriented. All we want is some direction on if we can see our family, if our kids can have a play date, if we can have grandma over for dinner. I wish wish this was talked about more. You are the first people I’ve heard talk about this and that’s saying something because I read constantly. At least I’m not alone. Thank you baby jesus. The confusion is REAL.
    Keep it up friends!

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    • Debbie says

      May 22, 2020 at 6:23 pm

      I am totally echoing what you said! Thank you Meagan and Sarah!

      Reply

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